Today Happenings

We celebrated my son's 16th birthday today. He passed his driving test and we had just enough time to run to the Secretary of State to get his license (5 minutes to spare before they closed).  We had a wonderful dinner out with some very good friends who are more like family.  It was a great time!

It's now 11:37pm and I have just realized that NONE of my family (except my mother, aunt and cousin) has bothered to call and wish him a happy birthday.  What is wrong with this picture? I guess the problem they have with me is running over to my son.  These people are supposed to be adults.  Yea right!  How hard is it to make a phone call or send a text?  Let alone we are all on Facebook and you couldn't type a post?

I haven't asked a whole lot from my family but this has gone to far. I know that anyone in my family that reads this will probably be upset but I really don't care anymore.  They have hurt me beyond words and I think that I would be better off without them in my life.  I may regret this later or I may not only God knows the answer to that question.

Proverbs 11:29

He who brings trouble on his family will inherit only wind, and the fool will be servant to the wise.

Mark 3:23-25 
Jesus called them over and responded with an illustration. "How can Satan cast out Satan?" he asked. "A kingdom divided by civil war will collapse. Similarly, a family splintered by feuding will fall apart." 

My Son

Today is my son's 16th birthday.  He was born at 10:53 pm on March 16, 1996.

When his father and I found out that we were pregnant it was the happiest day of our lives (other than our wedding day). We couldn't wait to find out what we were having!  I remember when we went to the doctor for my ultrasound.  As soon as she said it's a boy - I looked at my husband and he had the biggest smile on his face and tears in his eyes!  Of course I was crying too!!  We were having a little boy!!  The next thought that came into my head was "I'm giving my husband a son".

We started shopping for cribs, clothes and everything that you could possibly need or not need but looked really cute :-)

The day finally came when my water broke!  It was about 7:00am and my husband was at the laundry mat so I grabbed the phone to page him (yes PAGE him - we didn't have our cells phones at that time) anyway, I could hear his pager going off in the next room. He forgot to take it with him!  The first time ever that he forgot it!!!  After my initial laughter that he forgot it, I grabbed the phone book and called the laundry mat.  He got home so quick (the clothes were dry already so I guess it was timed pretty good).  I called my mom, sister, sister-in-law and then FINALLY the doctor (I know wrong order) I jumped in the shower and then off we went!

We arrived at the hospital, got settled in our room and on went the monitors.  My contractions never started so they had to start that HORRIBLE pitocin!  Within minutes the contractions started. I remember the movie "The Money Pit" being on the TV and yelling at my husband to stop watching it and watch my monitor for my contractions (poor guy - later I felt bad that I yelled at him).

I went 16 hours without any pain meds because my labor would not progress.  The doctor came in and said that he was breech and that a C-Section was on the way.  For some odd reason after hearing that the pain went away and that was before the spinal!!

They rolled me into the operating room and within a few minutes here was our beautiful baby boy Arron Taylor!  7lbs 11oz 19 inches long.  He was perfect!  I remember the tears running down both mine and his dad's faces - we were finally parents!  God had blessed us with the beautiful life!

Thank you God for our beautiful boy!

Thoughts

There have been so many things happening alot lately that really makes you think about where you stand.  Your family is hurting, you lose loved ones and realize that people that should be there really aren't.  You want to stand in the middle of the road, look up into the sky and scream "Why is this happening?".  Life is so difficult at times.  You want to enjoy and be thankful but you find yourself questioning why God is allowing this to happen.  We find ourselves questioning our faith, which is human. We all know that God has a plan for each one of us, we just don't know what it is or when it has been accomplished. We have to trust.

I have a wonderful and loving mother and father who did everything possible to make sure that my sister, brother and I had a happy childhood.  I was the youngest of three, my sister 9 years older and my brother 6 years older. My father always told me that I held a special place in his heart because I wasn't planned. :-)  I cannot speak for my siblings but only for me. My parents taught me great values.  Sure we had our ups and downs (for which I take total responsibility for).  My parents were and are always there for me, from the time I was a baby. It has been almost 16 years since my father passed at the young age of 54.  I will never forget that day.  I was holding his hand as he left this world.  It was at that moment that I realized how special that was.  He was there when I came into this world and I was there when he left.  That was, by far, one of the most special moments in my life. I have been blessed to have a wonderful stepfather come into my life that treats me as his own. 

In the few years I have lost so many loved ones.  When you are faced with that much death in such a short period of time it really makes you think "How much time do we really have?".  I think that we take our lives for granted. 

 I talk to my mother at least a few times a week (after all she is my best friend).  I hardly ever talk to my sister, which is partly my fault.  I hardly talk to my brother, which again is partly my fault. I talk to my sister-in-law as much as possible.  I know that they each have their own familys and own lives, but when do you say 'Hey remember me?" or do you just not say anything? What scares me more than anything is what will happen when, God forbid, my mother is taken away?  Will I be alone?  I hardly talk to my siblings now what will happen then?  I have been thinking about this so much lately. 

I guess what I'm trying to say is cherish your family, friends and what God has so graciously blessed you with because you never know when it will be gone.